This is important... Many of us twirl in our minds how "I" (We) can best please my (our) special people in my (our - this is the last one I'm doing this, I swear) lives. And in my efforts to be warm, accommodating, sincere, and seemingly appreciative I may have overlooked one major thing - "What does she/they want?" My purpose for my actions might be quite valiant but if unwarranted, buttressed by a lacking in quality communication, my effort(s) may not manifest a pleasing response.
Take for instance this scenario:
My queen has just been traveling all day with business clientele and I want to surprise her with a hot meal of her favorite dish. She calls me to state she's back in town, sooner than expected, and needs for me to pick her up. Now I'm in the middle of preparing a potentially pleasant surprise for her and didn't anticipate this breach in preparation time. But I still want to unveil the surprise. So I continue doing what I'm doing, only a little quicker than before, all awhile thinking I have more than enough time to get to her, and she's gonna be thrilled. I finally finish the prep work; the house smells great from the aroma. I look at the clock and see that about 20 minutes has passed since speaking with my queen. I make haste to get out the home to go get her (she's approximately 20 mins away). While in route, I remember I also intended to add decor to the dining room table, but I needed to stop at the store for a new vase I saw a week earlier. It's on the way to getting her, and I figure it'll only take 3 to 5 mins tops to get it. So I make the detour, and sure enough, it only hindered me "6" mins to retrieve it. I'm happy that she's gonna be so happy about what I've done for her to show her I appreciate her. I look down at my phone and see I have a text message. It reads, "Don't Worry About It." I'm about 5 mins away still, and now I'm wondering what does that mean. I get to her place of work only to find she's not there. I call her several times but she doesn't pick up. I text her questioning, "Where are you? - Are you still here?" but she doesn't respond. I look at my watch and realize that 50 mins has passed since the last time I spoke to her...
My point is, though your efforts and intent may be good, without communication, only you know it to be such. Your efforts to showcase "Love" may appear as "Neglect" to onlookers, especially those whom you intend to evoke effect from. This probably could have been remedied with a simple phone call or text explaining the delay. How does one explain why a 20 minute route takes 50 minutes to complete without some communication? My interest isn't to argue tolerance and patience, only communication, opposing perception and reflection.
...just a PVAJewel for the day. Make today a great day!!